How To Enjoy Better Sex

How To Enjoy Better Sex

Many people think that there is only one “normal” or “natural” position for intercourse, the “man on top” sex position. Yet a couple may find they could enjoy sex more in various other sexual positions. In reality, any sexual position is capable of providing delight. But this is not a guarantee of a happy relationship because men sometimes cannot make loe for long enough to provide their partner with pleasure. No surprise, then, that one of the most popular searches on the web is for tips to control premature ejaculation.

A quick climax to physical intimacy (in other words, premature ejaculation!) can deprive the woman of the fulfillment which is her reward from loving her partner. She will perhaps feel that her partner either does not take her needs into account or that he is selfish. And a man who reaches climax with no control often feels like he is a failure in bed.

None of this is helpful for the relationship, especially if the matter is not honestly discussed. However, the fear and shame associated with sexual problems is massively stressful, and the two partners often carry on even though this dynamic continues to erode trust and respect. If you recognize this, you must change things!

First of all, you must speak about it openly: this means you tell your partner what you are feeling. Unfortunately, research shows as few as ten percent of couples talk to each other about intimate problems. So, to help you discuss your thoughts, feelings and emotions around sex, we have some tips to help you:

1) Reveal your emotions – don’t use the tactic of avoiding responsibility by blaming your spouse. Having the ability to listen without judging means you’ll experience much less resistance – and your partner is probably going to be very much more willing and able to listen to what you want to say without judging you.

2) Don’t project your feelings – having the courage to accept that you arein this together is essential to eliminating mutual distrust. Only when you are able to accept that your lover’s actions and feelings are an honest reaction to the issues you face, and that they are entitled to think, feel and act as they do, will you begin to respect each other as you really are.

3) Don’t wallow in self-criticism. Doing something is more constructive. This may require getting the support of a therapist. Or it may mean something as simple as reserving a time every week to speak to your partner about your worries.

4) If you have trouble opening up about difficulties with your love life consider the things you want to “bring to the table” beforehand. Preparing like this is essential in achieving the respect of your partner. It’s also helpful to know where your limits lie in any talk about sex. That way you are be much more likely to avoid concessions you regret.

5) Be clear about why you are raising an issue. It’s often challenging to have full awareness of what’s behind our emotions, and it’s likely you might only fully realize the real issue as you talk about the issue. And, if you are clear what you would like to change, you are more likely to get it. The more genuinely you show yourself, the more honestly you talk about what’s going on for you, the closer you will feel as a couple.

Techniques To Help You Have Better Sex

When you have a clear intention to control premature ejaculation, you should also have a clear set of techniques which will allow you to achieve this goal. These might include sensate focus, visualization, and perhaps self hypnosis. Now, think of the reward that you get from sex. And now imagine how much greater that reward could possibly be if you were not only able to control your ejaculation, but you were also able to give a woman an orgasm during intercourse, or indeed if you were able to experience the thrill and excitement of G spot orgasm during intercourse.

There are techniques that you can use to improve the quality of your sex life enormously, and they go far beyond premature ejaculation control such as the squeeze-technique and the stop-start techniqueYet at the end of the day, improving your sex life in this way such a personal decision that almost nobody can encourage you to do it apart from you yourself. It’s a fact that most men with premature ejaculation don’t rely try to delay their ejaculation. This may be because they lack the internal motivation necessary to seek and achieve a better sex life.

Whether that is achieved by improving one’s relationship with oneself or one’s relationship with the world or one’s relationship with one’s partner, the truth of the matter is that gaining a fantastic sex life is always a matter of intention.

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It’s not always easy, knowing how to please a woman in bed (though this may help!). You need some help, some advice, some knowledge of what women really want. If you’re a guy who’s baffled by the demands of women, stand by for some clarity!

First of all, you need to have time and patience. Oh yes, and some skill, of course. But really, time and patience go a long way. You see, we know it takes ten to twenty times longer to turn a woman on than it takes to turn a man on.

And by “turn on”, we mean get her (or you) ready for sex. That would mean lubricated and wanting to be penetrated in the case of a woman, and erect and ready for penetration in the case of a man.

So – if you have time on your hands, so much the better. Twenty minutes of time before you even look for penetration. And in that time, you are going to stroke, kiss, tease, kiss, stroke, tease… and use your fingers, tongue and lips, as well as the whole of your skin, to give your partner an orgasm. Yes, give her an orgasm. That’s because sex doesn’t finish when a woman comes. (Think how often sex finishes when a man ejaculates. Usually, yes?)

So you are going to do things differently – you are going to take account of her needs. But why, you may be asking, does she need an orgasm before penetration? Well, because (as you may have noticed) few women come from intercourse alone.

And even if you provide additional clitoral stimulation, by using a vibrator, or your fingers, as you make love to her, you may well reach orgasm before she does. And then, where does that leave her? Answer – unsatisfied. Aroused, but hanging on for an orgasm.

Sure, you might say, she can take care of herself. Well, yes. She can. But is that really what you want to have happen here? She’s looking to you for sexual pleasure, and you, my dear man, are most likely wanting to give it to her. After all, most men are highly motivated to give sexual pleasure to their partners.

The first and perhaps the best way of doing this is to use oral pleasure – and I don’t mean by that simply cunnilingus. What I mean is using your lips and tongue to kiss every part of your woman’s body, sensitively and delicately, particularly around the breasts and vulva. Such intimate contact will excite her – without a doubt.

But when you move from the intimate contact of lips on skin to lips on genitals or breasts or nipples, she’s going to feel arousal increasing and her desire to sexual contact will mount quite rapidly. It’s a cunning technique which allows you to arouse a woman AND at the same time stay aroused yourself. (At this point I need to mention the fact that erections come and go during lovemaking. If you lose your erection during lovemaking, it really doesn’t matter. It’ll come back again quickly and easily, as soon as you’re in a position to penetrate your partner.) The key to teasing your partner is to give her a level of stimulation which arouses her so much that she is ready for penetration. You can tell this quite easily by sipping a finger into her vagina just as she starts to get really aroused.

One method which you can use to good effect here is to offer her oral pleasuring on her clitoris whilst you finger the inside of her vagina. This is a great way for you to give her the greatest pleasure as you make love.

Go for the upper wall as she lies on her back – that’s the G spot. Certainly of all the techniques recommended by sex experts on the Internet, and indeed by women themselves in forums where they discuss what they want, this seems to be the featured and favorite technique that brings a woman off time and time again.

It’s the intensity of arousal at the point where she finally comes which makes her orgasm extremely satisfying and pleasurable for her.

And what makes her arousal so high? It’s teasing and skilful manipulation of her feelings which you, as a man, can provide for her. Does it take a lot of imagination to make this “loveplay” (aka foreplay) last for 20 minutes?

Well, up to a point it does, but you can do it! Don’t forget that the reward for you is a woman who reaches orgasm when she is highly aroused. This in itself is hugely exciting for most men – after all, you’ve brought her off! What makes it even better is that once she’s achieved orgasm, she won’t lose interest in sex in the way that you probably do. Indeed, she’d probably be more desirous of penetration, for you to enter her, when she’s come. That way she will enjoy lovemaking to the full.

In fact she is quite likely to be desperate for penetration, and consumed with desire to feel the fullness of you inside her. (With a force equal to your desire to be in her. Felt that, have you? Then you know what she wants, too.)

After she’s come, the soft warm wetness of her vagina will be deeply rewarding and intensely pleasurable to you. And, provided you’re able to last long enough, you may or may not be able to bring her to orgasm again. Sure, this is not guaranteed, but it really doesn’t matter even if you don’t take her to a second orgasm during lovemaking. Think of it as a bonus.

However, what you must do, is to look her in the eyes as you make love. Allow her body to follow your movements. (Coital alignment is good for this.) And, above all, if you’re able to, say her name at the moment of orgasm!  (Better – shout “I love you, [insert name]” as you come. It will have a quite extraordinary effect on her…..)

By doing these things you demonstrate yourself to be a man who is quite exceptional in his lovemaking skills and abilities. You demonstrate sensitivity to her needs which most men won’t even think of showing. As you can well imagine, this is going to establish a much stronger relationship and a more powerful bond between you. But it also makes her happy both inside the bedroom and outside the bedroom.

Truly, you can improve the quality of your relationship immensely by offering her the sexual pleasure and satisfaction she craves. And all it takes are the simple techniques for pleasuring described above.

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